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Posted by Missy on July 31, 2001 at 21:18:15:

In Reply to: Re: attn: 4s! advice needed posted by Mikko on July 31, 2001 at 18:56:10:

: : Hi

: : Well, this is really tough for you cause, you're the guy, & guys are generally obliged to take the lead. Some women will not approach a man because they think that the man should make the first move. Some of the logic behind it is, if a guy *really* likes a girl, he will make a move, & if he doesn't that means he's not interested enuf, or is probably taken.
: : So, that being said, you should just smile & actually say "Hi" & then you are allowed to ask something dumb like, "are you from here?" or any kind of question that will get a conversation going.

^some girls are old fashioned and whats so wrong with that?

: --If she really is a 'mysterious', 'distant' 4, those questions will lead absolutely nowhere. She'll just look in that distance and mutter something totally incomprehendable and at that moment the guy realizes he should be somewhere else doing something totally else.

^she might actually like the guy but is a bit shy and nervous. familiarity helps if she sees the person occasionally just in her everyday life, it will help her overcome her shyness a little bit. she will grow accustomed to you.
: :See if you can get some her interests. If she's a student, what is she studying, then find out if she likes music, or movies or whatever & then, just put into the conversation, "Do you wanna hang out sometime" & if she says yes, then you could propose "well, we could do (her interest here)"
: : If she avoids the get together, she's probably taken. If she hesitates, but says yes, then she's just being coy.

: --My advice for all the men in the world is that, unless you like impossible challenges, whenever you meet a 'coy' girl run so fookin hell to any other direction as you can. You'll save yourself from a lot.

^coy equals cleverness in a sense, so are you afraid of a woman being more clever or smarter than you?

: : Anyway, the risk is yours. THis is one of the places where it is tough being a guy.
: : Let us know how it goes.
: : R
^risks are one the most rewarding things there are, sure they can be scary but you might just reap the rewards from it. if not, you have not lost anything, only gained more life experience.

: --The risk can be reduced a lot by finding someone who is actually capable of human interaction.

^so are you saying that 4w5 types are incapable of human interaction?

^Hmmm... I can't help wondering if you had a bad experience with a 4w5 realtionship wise, or on a date?

^Missy

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Re: attn: 4s! advice needed autumnrainbow 11:48:36 08/01/01 (1)
- Re: attn: 4s! advice needed Mikko 16:15:27 08/01/01 (0)
Re: attn: 4s! advice needed Mikko 06:25:01 08/01/01 (1)
- Re: attn: 4s! advice needed autumnrainbow 11:50:11 08/01/01 (0)

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: : : Hi : : : Well, this is really tough for you cause, you're the guy, & guys are generally obliged to take the lead. Some women will not approach a man because they think that the man should make the first move. Some of the logic behind it is, if a guy *really* likes a girl, he will make a move, & if he doesn't that means he's not interested enuf, or is probably taken. : : : So, that being said, you should just smile & actually say "Hi" & then you are allowed to ask something dumb like, "are you from here?" or any kind of question that will get a conversation going. : ^some girls are old fashioned and whats so wrong with that? : : --If she really is a 'mysterious', 'distant' 4, those questions will lead absolutely nowhere. She'll just look in that distance and mutter something totally incomprehendable and at that moment the guy realizes he should be somewhere else doing something totally else. : ^she might actually like the guy but is a bit shy and nervous. familiarity helps if she sees the person occasionally just in her everyday life, it will help her overcome her shyness a little bit. she will grow accustomed to you. : : :See if you can get some her interests. If she's a student, what is she studying, then find out if she likes music, or movies or whatever & then, just put into the conversation, "Do you wanna hang out sometime" & if she says yes, then you could propose "well, we could do (her interest here)" : : : If she avoids the get together, she's probably taken. If she hesitates, but says yes, then she's just being coy. : : --My advice for all the men in the world is that, unless you like impossible challenges, whenever you meet a 'coy' girl run so fookin hell to any other direction as you can. You'll save yourself from a lot. : ^coy equals cleverness in a sense, so are you afraid of a woman being more clever or smarter than you? : : : Anyway, the risk is yours. THis is one of the places where it is tough being a guy. : : : Let us know how it goes. : : : R : ^risks are one the most rewarding things there are, sure they can be scary but you might just reap the rewards from it. if not, you have not lost anything, only gained more life experience. : : --The risk can be reduced a lot by finding someone who is actually capable of human interaction. : ^so are you saying that 4w5 types are incapable of human interaction? : ^Hmmm... I can't help wondering if you had a bad experience with a 4w5 realtionship wise, or on a date? : ^Missy

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