Posted by Mikko on August 01, 2001 at 06:25:01:
In Reply to: Re: attn: 4s! advice needed posted by Missy on July 31, 2001 at 21:18:15:
: : : So, that being said, you should just smile & actually say "Hi" & then you are allowed to ask something dumb like, "are you from here?" or any kind of question that will get a conversation going.
: ^some girls are old fashioned and whats so wrong with that?
--Are you talking to yourself or me?
: ^she might actually like the guy but is a bit shy and nervous. familiarity helps if she sees the person occasionally just in her everyday life, it will help her overcome her shyness a little bit. she will grow accustomed to you.
--I haven't seen that happening.
: : --My advice for all the men in the world is that, unless you like impossible challenges, whenever you meet a 'coy' girl run so fookin hell to any other direction as you can. You'll save yourself from a lot.
: ^coy equals cleverness in a sense, so are you afraid of a woman being more clever or smarter than you?
--'Coy' means, according to a dictionary, at least any or all of the following three:
1. Tending to avoid people and social situations; reserved
2. Affectedly and usually flirtatiously shy or modest.
3. Annoyingly unwilling to make a commitment.
Where is that 'cleverness in a sense' in those meanings? Duh, I think I need my glasses or something. In real life, my experience, coy means either 1 and 3 when used to describe someone you don't know. To answer your question, I'm not afraid of that a woman is more clever or smarter than me. It annoys me when it's a sort of 'gotcha' type of passive pseudo-cleverness, but that's not what we are talking about here anyway.
: : --The risk can be reduced a lot by finding someone who is actually capable of human interaction.
: ^so are you saying that 4w5 types are incapable of human interaction?
--Some are. But someone you've described here isn't necessarily a 4w5 to begin with. You know, all those old-fashioned caveats about how the enneagram doesn't actually describe behaviour but motivation blah blah blah.
: ^Hmmm... I can't help wondering if you had a bad experience with a 4w5 realtionship wise, or on a date?
--Hmm...it's an interesting thing to wonder about, isn't it?
: ^Missy
Mikko