Posted by autumnrainbow on August 01, 2001 at 11:39:16:
In Reply to: Re: sounds to me like this posted by Margaret on July 31, 2001 at 19:37:31:
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hmm i dont think that i am particuarly avoidant except of situations and things that upset me and make me sad, i tend to think i have enough sadness without having to get it from new sources. so i dont watch war movies very much. what else? i think i am sensitive but i dont think i am avoidant really. what is this book you are reading? i am intrigued.
It's good to force yourself to break out of unhealthy avoidant behaviour (which is what I've been trying this past few months). The best way to do this is to find people to share activites with you that you enjoy, slowly - it's a slow process - to break out of shyness, fear, avoidance - but it's good to force yourself to do at least one activity with at least one person (all of them platonic only, of course) a month. And from there you can eventually increase the number of times, variety of activities and kinds of people you want to spend time enjoying to two times a month, then 3, then 4, etc. That's the best way to break out of avoidant behaviour. One step at a time. One person at a time. One activity at a time. You can increase it later to however much you want - but you have to start out with small steps otherwise you will automatically revert back to unhealthy behavious again. Unhealthy behavorial habits can be broken - but only gradually, and with conscious effort.
: : As a Four, I would expect you to see where I am coming from. Today, I got a book, and in it I identified my primary type as Sensitive. The Sensitive type is based on the Avoidant personality, and they have the most difficult time with people out of all types. Reading the description of the Sensitive was like somebody was writing a biography about me! MB profiles were somewhat accurate, Riso's 4w5 seemed very much like me, but this was ME! Since you are obviously not Sensitive (and I mean this as a personality style, not literally!), you get along fine with others in real life and wonder what the hell is wrong with me. Correct?
: : Name tomorrow!
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: : : I'm researching a book on reclusive life styles.. How many combos of 4/5 out there would fit the category of loner or recluse (broadly defined)