Posted by Rhonda on August 03, 2001 at 07:26:32:
In Reply to: why, thank you, Rhonda! :) posted by Margaret on August 02, 2001 at 20:23:28:
Margaret,
I have actually been where you are. & when I finally started getting out of the hole, it took a long time before my place was my Home. For a long time it was just a place where I had my own door to close. & I found that decorating helped me feel a lot better about myself! Sounds weird, but its true. Don't spend a lot of money, but don't leave things bare or just enough. Even if you use milk crates, get some leftover fabric pieces from a fabric store & cover the crates ... & for example, pictures from magazines, postcards are nice decorations for you walls, but you would be *amazed* the differnce in feeling you get when you buy even a cheap frame, put a picture in it & then put several on your wall. You'll start to feel like you really deserve to have something nice, that you deserve to be in a nice place. you know? (& people who come over to visit will think the same thing, that you deserve something good)
about the phone, if budget is an issue, and you can't afford both, get the cell. They are incredibly convenient. You won't have to stay home so as not to miss a call, & if you have an appointment with a freind, it is so nice to call them on their cell & say, sorry, I'm running 10 minutes late ... the best is when you are both waiting in the same place, but don;t see each other ... you won't ever have to find a pay phone etc ...
let us know how it goes,
Rhonda
: Thank you for your support, Rhonda. I really needed that. :)
: There's not much room to decorate, I jist put in a rocking chair, small table, a lamp, and a small bed. I just have to get some curtains yet. Then that will probably be it for now.
: I didn't know cell phone would be cheaper, really? Ok, I'll look into that.
: Thanks! :)
: : Wow! No, it is a big step. & yeah, it is scary siging a lease. Congratulations! (How) are you gonna decorate? You can have a lot of fun with this cause its all your own.
: : ps: For the phone, have you considered just getting a cell fone instead? Its really practical, cause you can have it with you all the time. Great for a rendez-vous!
: : : For 4s - going to One - setting goals, keep steady at it, busy and active gets rid of depression and the low side living of four. I have been so depressed and stressed lately - moved five times just this last month - but decided to not 'give up' and instead keep going - so I kept going- and finally did something big I never did before - I signed a whole year lease for rent - the first time my entire life - I have graduated from living in sleeping rooms to getting my own studio apartment with my own bathroom and sink for the first time my whole life! 11" by 11" it's huge! It's the biggest place I've ever lived all on my own! it was scary signing the 12 mo. lease - always payed weekly (or nightly) before - never 12 mo.s before! Perhaps many of you will laugh - but for me - it is a big huge step towards getting more normal and healthier and self- able and competent in life - BIG and HUGE step up in life for me. I am also thinking about getting my own phone for 12 mo.s straight as well! BIG step in the right direction for me. It feels so weird. But I am not going to let the fear and feeling small and helpless and powerless (low side 4)get in my way anymore - it's time I start moving up and forward in my life - it feels good to integrate positively - and I'm going to keep doing it - I hope all of you do too - if not, you really should - it feels good - it is healthier and you will feel better about yourself too! :)