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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: Followup: Summer...Posted by Jasper on September 15, 1999 at 17:54:06: In Reply to: Followup: Summer... posted by Ronnie on September 15, 1999 at 17:10:23:
: Just a comment about Derf and you: First you say Derf is being rude, arrogant : This is one thread I probably should not get involved in, being that I don't really understand how it started or what it's really about, except for something to do with feminine issues? I am already sticking foot in mouth, that's usually what happens when I take a risk. But in my hasty defense, I only got involved when I read your last comment, Summer, to Derf. It is absolutely true that in this life there are simply some people we will never see eye to eye with, or connect with, and we have to accept this fact and let it go. But my thoughts are totally in sinc with Ev's earlier words, and there's of course my "nine" aspect about wishing I could make everybody happy and get along with each other. I wish you two could just, what is that comment, "agree to disagree?" Also, you both have to keep in mind that you have never met Rachel, don't really know the circumstances or milieu under which thee "event" occurred, and that if you actually met her, and both sat down with her and heard her speak of it, you both might (or might not) have side stepped all of this backlash. Please find a way to make peace on this thing. It's not worth all the fuss. Of course, you can both tell me to mind my own business, etc. At least you won't then be fighting with each other, but which each other against a common enemy. You know what the most fascinating part of this whole thing is to me? Think back to the time before elementary school, before you knew how to read. You first learned the 26 letters of the alphabet, then put those letters together into words, sentences, eventually processing those sentences as thoughts. If you think about it, these words are just words, but by processing them they become these amazing thoughts spoken by people who have never met each other. These words-processed as thoughts--reaching across the miles to either embrace or destroy. The thought that simple letters on a screen can turn into this huge fight between two living beings--the power of the press I guess. But the concept is totally awesome. Okay, if you want to keep fighting, so be it. Or not talk to each other, but don't stopping writing to the rest of us, please. Your thoughts, words, phrases ARE important. Something else, if you two fours actually met in person, my guess--it would be different. You'd hug and make up. Even you Derf, you can't continuously hold that tough, albeit interesting, stance forever, without a slight break in the action. Remember three wing or not, you are still a four at heart. To Rachel: I hope things have improved even slightly for you since your last message. Aren't I a terrible optimist. I should join the slick threes group, right?
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