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Posted by tigs. on September 19, 1999 at 01:09:43:
Why can't everyone just be nice to each other....drunken ramblings.....
No really, I think it is necessary to step back from our training in ascerbic remarks, and try to be genuinely positive. There is a lot of warmth and support here and I would not like to see people alienated and dissappear because of someones need to be incisive in a cutting, studenty way. We are of a wide age range here, and with our Four sensitivity should be able to manage a degree of gentility. All right I know it is interesting for some people to see others argue, but many things can be interesting, and is it worth it if people get hurt. Which brings me on to another question - how much do we fours need to toughen up, and how much do we need to show the world that sensitivity is redemptive? phrase that in your own terms, but it is a genuine issue for me. I am very sensitive, and eveyone says I shouldn't trust people so much. but I don't want to live in a society where everyone is defensive and wary. I come from a very giveing and hospitable family so find it hard when the world is less welcoming and hostile. Is this a Four thing? I have strong feelings about this , especially in regard to children. I belong to Antidote: the Self-esteem network which tries to influence areas like education, prison reform, the health service to encourage the raising of people's self esteem. I try to do my bit in teaching. Four's are thought to be withdrawing. I personally find this bit hard to relate to. Any ideas? I find it hard NOT to trust people, even though I have been disappointed many times. I just hope people can search their hearts a little before cutting someone up. the problem with message boards is that we can't see the persons face, so we don't know if their eyes start to fill with tears, or their eyes look scared and injured, or their anger and sense of injustice keeps them awake at night. Stay imaginative, stay perceptive, A vulnerable Tigs.
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