Posted by daniel on February 01, 2002 at 02:09:57:
In Reply to: Changes posted by Margaret on January 29, 2002 at 19:12:47:
Why get married and have kids?? why not just explore the world? Do whatever you want to do. Seek for truth. anything! I don't get why people think they have some kind of social imperative to marry and have children by a certain age or at all.
Single people often contribute the most to society in terms of serving others and contributing to societies advancement and have the less negative impact. Is it just a social-biological imperative to continue your namesake through your children or a need for children in order to have more meaning in life?
Should ask many questions before just going with the socio/biological machine.
: There are some pretty big changes in my life now. I just bought a new cell phone, I signed a two year contract. I got my car paid off. I got my tax form, that said last year I clocked so many hours, I made 5 figures the first time my whole life! (The most I've ever made in one whole year before this was $7,000.) I also got good reference for doing all those jobs too now, so I am now able to apply for a permanent job and I can then renew my lease this summer, should I get it. However, if something happens and I still can't get a perm job yet, I am going to check out the east for one week, see how the job situation out there is, as well as the housing, and if I can get a income level and my own living arrangement (no roommates) that is either just as good as or better what I have here, then I will move there and work there permenantly. If however, I cannot find an apt that is as cool as the one I'm in now, nor income that is high enough to make up for it, then I will not move. Instead I will stay here and work here permanently, then after 1 or 2 years of saving money, I will go to Europe for 6 mo - 1 year until my money is gone, then come back to US and get married and have a family. Which means I need to get serious about starting to look for someone locally who is also interested in getting married right now, because I'm not getting any younger. I also got a strange feeling the east is not as affordable as it is out here, that would mean I would need something that pays more than I can make here. Even thought it's still worth a look, if it's not better than here, then I will not go. Unless, of course, I get married. However, I will not depend on that without verbal or written agreement because I don't have time anymore for things that are not reliable, I am not getting any younger, and I need to make progress in my life, that means I only have time left now for firm agreements with someone who is reliable.