Posted by Bibi(4w5) on May 18, 1998 at 18:00:03:
In Reply to: Who's your type? posted by Devora-Leah on May 14, 1998 at 16:05:45:
As I am new to the enneagram and have not been able to type all my friends yet (don't know if I ever will) I have to speak in general, but I seem to be drawn to 2's and 9's. I guess the reason why I'm drawn to these types is that they are (those I know anyway) calm and steady people, easy-going and generous.
I also have a very close friend who is a 4w5, and his friendship may give me more of an "intellectual challenge" than the friendships I have with 9's and 2's. It is also good to have a friend who KNOWS what I'm dealing with (my moods, depressions, envy - what have you). Besides we are both very interested in understanding ourselves and others (he's an enneagram enthusiast of course! *s*). The 2's and 9's I know are happy as long as they don't get into conflicts with anyone, but they seem to have little interest in psychology in general.
I have only one friend who is 7, and that will do for me. I can only stand her in small portions. (Even, or maybe because, I have a lot of 7 in me myself). I guess a more healthy 7 would be OK, though.
I have met one 2-person that was VERY unhealthy, (even disintegrated to 8), and I will for ever avoid contact with such a manipulative individual in the future. She would hurt me just to be able to heal me afterwards, and she would never admit that her actions were other than for my own good. She really thought she was a saint! (I have cut all contact with her now).
I am not sure if I know any 1's, but I would gladly be friends with a HEALTHY one any day. As for the 3's I am not sure....I guess they are too much into material things than I am, career and such... (3 is my suppressed wing, so I have a problem there I guess...)
Both my father and sister are 8w7's, and they can be pretty domineering at times, which makes me either aggressive or withdrawn. On the other hand, they are both good to turn to if I need to uplift my spirit or self-confidence as they are both good at motivating me and make me remember I CAN DO IT! (BUT -if they jump in to rescue me, I'm not responsive).
I might be able to see what types I like or dislike when I know more about the different types.
Bibi