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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive I'm pretty sure I'm a T, not an F. But I am a fourPosted by Diarmuid on February 11, 2002 at 09:32:01: In Reply to: Re: Fours who hate romance posted by Rachel on February 06, 2002 at 10:26:43: I'm definitely a four or a five. And my emotions are allllllllways on. I have never had a moment of emotional blankness in my entire life that lasted longer than a few seconds. And I can easily go three years without one. I WANT emotional blankness like 5s get everyday. I'd love to have one every month.
: I too am a cynical 4. I think, quite a few 4s are also MBTI NFs. 4s are generally not superficial, and introverted 4s are reserved and stew in thier own juices. They look for the deeper meanings in things - they are seeking a spiritual connection, not so much the dramatic paperback romance. although, they secretly believe, that once that unique, deep spiritual connection is found, then nothing can possibly sully the experience. The fours have an intensity of emotion and feeling. I think, that introverted 4s have a tendency to be downright morose and even cynical, because what they crave, to connect deeply with others, escapes them. They often find life in the general public frustrating, and shallow, and can become angry and adopt a "whatever" attitude to defend themselves from emotional pain and disappointment. : 4s are not the Mary Poppins of the world, as much as they are The Don Quixotes of the world, living more in thier heads than in thier immediate environments. : I think they also have a pretty strong idea of the way they think things should be, but when things are not that way, it is difficult for them to be happy-go-lucky and roll with the punches. Romantics tend to have cholic moods. They have great hopes and fantasies in thier heads, but reality lets them down. : As for your take on not wanting to be individualistic, and to blend in, many 4s feel compelled to blend. Environment still holds sway over us, reguardless of our secret inner fears and wants. for a 4 wanting to be understood, who craves communion with others, they may decide it is better to blend in, than to assert thier individuality and be alienated. However, individuality goes beyond dress. Individuality can be expressed emotionally too. I found your comment on being different for the sake of being different, telling. Fours arent different for the sake of being different, they really ARE different! I for one, conform because I must to keep my job. However, to make up for my inability to express myself fully for much of the day, I go to great lengths to make my home an extension of the wackiness in my mind, by cluttering it with all manner of strange and generally useless clap-trap, including totems, toys, and artwork. : At work, I always make sure to keep something frivolous on top of my computer. Something small, and acrimonious, such as a little godzilla figure. I dont stick out in a crowd, but if I felt free to dress as I please, my appearance would be as freakish as the appearance of my home. I am plagued with outrageous ideas such as sewing a wardrobe consisting of NOTHING but shift dresses, made in the same style but in different earth colors, and wearing NOTHING but. Truly Quixotic.
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