In a sense, it's easier for guys

Posted by Diarmuid on February 13, 2002 at 11:50:58:

In Reply to: 'I wandered lonely as a duck'. How do people cope with loneliness? nt posted by Tiggy on February 12, 2002 at 17:15:06:

(Obviously, given that the suicide rate among single men is 4 times the same for women, it's not a lot easier overall.)

But men don't have to examine themselves to discover why they're lonely, they just have to put up with it. A lonely woman (or gay man) is lonely mostly by choice. A lonely man (or lesbian) is lonely mostly because the outside world is a certain way.

Put it this way: you build a house badly, one windy night, the house collapses. You have two problems: homelessness and shame.

You build a house well: an unprecedented tidal wave, or a terrorist attack destroys it. You have one problem: homelessness. And your mind, unburdened by shame, is better equipped to handle the problem than in the first example.

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• I have no idea what you're talking about. Please clarify. nt Tiggy 17:15:33 02/13/02 (10)
  • Well... Emily 20:50:24 02/13/02 (9)
    • Sex doesn't equal a relationship though. nt Tiggy 17:05:02 02/14/02 (2)
      • Well yah. Emily [nt] 15:02:50 02/15/02 (1)
        • Now we know ;) Putz 03:20:39 04/03/02 (0)
    • <:-O Diarm 06:07:20 02/14/02 (4)
      • Re: <:-O Diarmuid 00:15:57 02/16/02 (0)
      • Well maybe women are jus bit more choosy. Anyway, I don't agree wth you on the men front. ntnt Tiggy 17:06:57 02/14/02 (0)
      • Re: <:-O -O 08:13:47 02/14/02 (0)
      • Re: <:-O -o 08:13:02 02/14/02 (0)
    • If any guy off the shelf worked and the commitment time is one night, I suppose that would be true. NT froggyTheFrog (9w1) 01:46:50 02/14/02 (0)

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