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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: To Ronnie - some thoughts.Posted by Hal on September 24, 1999 at 08:50:10: In Reply to: Re: To Ronnie - some thoughts. posted by Ronnie on September 23, 1999 at 14:53:46: Ronnie, Our parents are quite similar, at least typewise. My mother is a 2w3 and my father is a 1w9. I also had many of the same kinds of experiences and feelings growing up, and as you are well aware, these same feelings continue to affect us very strongly even as adults. I was incredibly angry for a long time. It always seemed that I was angry at my father, but a lot of it was being angry at the whole world, and being angry with myself for my inability to handle things better. My father was often just a convenient target in my mind for my anger. I know very well the feelings of rejection and humiliation that can come from what should be small and insignificant incidents, like those mindless comments from friends and relatives. If they could only feel how painful those words were to us... I don't have any words of wisdom or advice at the moment. I've worked through a lot of this, but still have a lot more to work through. My spiritual growth has led me to a place of greater acceptance and allowed me to forgive my parents--not entirely, but mostly. I was recently reminded of the power and importance of forgiveness; most of all is that forgiveness is NOT something we do for the other person. It is something we do for ourself, and it's necessary for our own healing. I wish I could tell you how to get there, but I really don't know myself. We're all in this together. :-) - Hal -
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