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Posted by Ev on September 24, 1999 at 15:04:49:

In Reply to: Tired... posted by Summer on September 24, 1999 at 14:23:40:

: Any fours out there get tired of being lonely?

: I'm tired of it & want my life to dramatically change. This isn't just typical four ramblings...I've been ready for quite some time now, but it's not happening yet. I sometimes wonder in a silly way if I'm being punished. Why must we suffer so much? This is really silly.

: I wish I could visit here on the weekend - I'm going to be able to soon, I hope, at my friends house.

: Everybody have a good weekend ---:-)

Hello Summer,

You have a good weekend too!

Yes, I used to go through periods where I was very lonely. During those periods it was hard not to believe that my life would never get better, or worse yet, more satisfying.At some point in that depressive fog I would always make the decision to take whatever action was necessary to change my life for the better. Once it was dancing lessons, once it was therapy, once it was a dating service, once it was taking classes at the local Jr. college, once it was...ad infintum. The point is that there is *always* some action you can take that will shake up your life. The great thing about taking part in activities outside the home is that you're pretty much assured of meeting people you wouldn't have met otherwise.

I have no idea whatsoever of what you are looking for in a man but I do know that if your "have to have" list is very long you'll probably never find him. I use the term probably because life, in some ways, can be broken down into manageable pieces by keeping probability theory in mind. Example: I only like men who are 6 feet tall or better. (You've just excluded about 80% of the men on planet Earth. Further Example: I only like fair complected blonds. (Out of the 20% you had to work with you've just excluded about 15% of them; black, brunette, redhead). Further example yet: I'm only interested in professional men with college degrees.
(There's no need to even finish this up.) While it may seem very reasonable to hold out for one or more of these characteristics, you should be aware of the price you pay by narrowing the field. I don't have any clue as to whether this relates to your situation or not but just thought I'd kick it around a bit.

Here's something I also *know*. There are loads of good men who are out there looking for someone special to fill a place in their lives. The question is, will you do what's necessary to make yourself accessible to them. Chasing after a man is *not* necessary, but making it possible to be in your presence is.

Hope you find who/what you're searching for. :)

Follow Ups:

Re: Then again.. Summer 09:37:59 9/27/99 (0)
Re: Tired... Tired Tigs. 20:17:57 9/24/99 (7)
- Re: Tired... Ev 01:39:52 9/25/99 (6)
  - Re: Tired... Tiggy the chaste, not chased. 20:26:06 9/26/99 (1)
    - Re: Tired... Ev 21:01:37 9/26/99 (0)
  - Tired...and lonely Ronnie 15:36:33 9/25/99 (3)
    - Let intuition guide you Ev 17:01:20 9/25/99 (2)
      - Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:21:07 9/26/99 (0)
      - Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:19:03 9/26/99 (0)

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: : Any fours out there get tired of being lonely? : : I'm tired of it & want my life to dramatically change. This isn't just typical four ramblings...I've been ready for quite some time now, but it's not happening yet. I sometimes wonder in a silly way if I'm being punished. Why must we suffer so much? This is really silly. : : I wish I could visit here on the weekend - I'm going to be able to soon, I hope, at my friends house. : : Everybody have a good weekend ---:-) : Hello Summer, : You have a good weekend too! : Yes, I used to go through periods where I was very lonely. During those periods it was hard not to believe that my life would never get better, or worse yet, more satisfying.At some point in that depressive fog I would always make the decision to take whatever action was necessary to change my life for the better. Once it was dancing lessons, once it was therapy, once it was a dating service, once it was taking classes at the local Jr. college, once it was...ad infintum. The point is that there is *always* some action you can take that will shake up your life. The great thing about taking part in activities outside the home is that you're pretty much assured of meeting people you wouldn't have met otherwise. : I have no idea whatsoever of what you are looking for in a man but I do know that if your "have to have" list is very long you'll probably never find him. I use the term probably because life, in some ways, can be broken down into manageable pieces by keeping probability theory in mind. Example: I only like men who are 6 feet tall or better. (You've just excluded about 80% of the men on planet Earth. Further Example: I only like fair complected blonds. (Out of the 20% you had to work with you've just excluded about 15% of them; black, brunette, redhead). Further example yet: I'm only interested in professional men with college degrees. : (There's no need to even finish this up.) While it may seem very reasonable to hold out for one or more of these characteristics, you should be aware of the price you pay by narrowing the field. I don't have any clue as to whether this relates to your situation or not but just thought I'd kick it around a bit. : Here's something I also *know*. There are loads of good men who are out there looking for someone special to fill a place in their lives. The question is, will you do what's necessary to make yourself accessible to them. Chasing after a man is *not* necessary, but making it possible to be in your presence is. : Hope you find who/what you're searching for. :) : Ev :

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