Re: Tired...

Posted by Ev on September 25, 1999 at 01:39:52:

In Reply to: Re: Tired... posted by Tired Tigs. on September 24, 1999 at 20:17:57:

: Chasing after a man is *not* necessary, but making it possible to be in your presence is.

: Trouble is Ev, it's very hard to actually make it possible for men to be in one's presence.
: I don't think it's that they're too fussy, just it's more difficult to meet new men. Like the nice ones rarely speak to you in pubs etc. in case you accuse them of sexually harassing you, and anyway assume you're just there to chat with one of your friends, (which may well be the case), and the others are the ones to steer clear of.

Have you ever considered approaching those "nice ones" or do you always wait for them to risk rejection first? That's what we're really talking about here. If people weren't afraid of being rejected when they make the first move then meeting people of either gender would be a snap. I can assure you that you have been in the presence of many men who would have loved to have met you but didn't because they weren't comfortable with making the first move. You're extroverted; get out there and mix it up with people a bit more.

I have an uncle, a type 6 maybe, who is of the opinion that a woman who won't sleep with a man on the first date is a "prick tease". Conversely, he believes that a woman who will sleep with a man on the first date is a whore. Is it any wonder that this kind of thinking has led to him being a 50 year old bachelor? This is somewhat analagous to your "the nice ones won't speak but the cretins will" scenario.

That's if I even had someone to go to the pub with. Most blokes just go to the pub with their mates and aren't even thinking of meeting women. If I go to evening classes as some magazines suggest, the men there are usually sad bastards, and I just don't know where to meet any men. I tried a dating thing and it was awful, as well as being prohibitively expensive on the phone bill. Also it was London based and people can't be bothered to come out to Essex. Any Essex based one is full of Essex men who are not particularly well educated or cultured. I never go anywhere much, just to see close friends.

Maybe you are setting your sights too high. Maybe you could find happiness with one of those less well educated or cultured Essex men. I don't know if this is true or not but maybe you should consider the possibility.

Follow Ups:

• Re: Tired... Tiggy the chaste, not chased. 20:26:06 9/26/99 (1)
  • Re: Tired... Ev 21:01:37 9/26/99 (0)
• Tired...and lonely Ronnie 15:36:33 9/25/99 (3)
  • Let intuition guide you Ev 17:01:20 9/25/99 (2)
    • Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:21:07 9/26/99 (0)
    • Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:19:03 9/26/99 (0)

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