Posted by emoot (216.189.14.12) on April 24, 2002 at 11:42:42:
In Reply to: Re: Personal Wedding Vows posted by heatherb (213.98.230.229) on April 24, 2002 at 05:22:09:
: We wrote our vows... it was SO important to me, to us, that we FELT everything we said... I didn't want the "til death do us part" thing.
: Also, since we married at a Unitarian Universalist church, part of the way it goes is that they encourage you to "personalize" the ceremony...especially in our case since my husband is catholic! It had to be a ceremony we both could identify with and feel true.
: All in all, what was important was how symbolic it all was...
: And it was wonderful :)
--I hope I did not offend ya....with what I wrote, I was just kind of searching myself out. I mean I was surprised by my reactions when it came to that.....because I always thought I was actually more the type who would want to say all those special things on that one day. It weirded me out when I finally had the opportunity and I wanted to do the opposite. But like I told froggy....it was too deep for me to get out, I guess, under those conditions.
: About being self-conscious... since it was a REALLY small wedding, just family and close friends, I hardly even realized they were there when we were exchanging vows :)
--Yeah, I bet the size of a wedding makes a difference. Did you see the movie "Steel Magnolia's".....I had nine bridesmaids(I know that sounds like a lot but honestly they were all special). My wedding was in my hometown and just everybody was invited. So technically there were many people there who were not exactly close friends of mine but more people who were familiar/friendly with my family. It's like that when you grow up in a small town and everybody knows ya. I cherish the day but it was hard for me to be the center of attention. I did the best I could and probably nobody else knew I was nervous. But part of that was me detaching from it to have the strength to get through it without any hitches. Come to think of it.....I do that all the time when I have to speak in public. I turn on this extraverted side of me and my deeper personal-feeling side shuts off.
Despite that I had a nice wedding.(: But I guess I am much more private than I sometimes realize.
emoot(: