Let intuition guide you

Posted by Ev on September 25, 1999 at 17:01:20:

In Reply to: Tired...and lonely posted by Ronnie on September 25, 1999 at 15:36:33:

As 4's, most, if not all, of us have a preference for intuition. Why not use this strength when trying to approach the opposite sex. I'll bet that if most of us want to make a favorable impression on someone we just intuitively *know* how to go about it. Rather than think things to death, just go with your hunches and approach whoever you feel will be open to you. If you let thinking predominate you will quickly come up with at least 50 good reasons why not to do it. Take some chances, the world is set up to benefit risk takers.

Actually, my previous post was intended to point out to the fairer sex that they too have the ability to make the first move. This may be different in Europe due to a different cultural bias but it's hard not to believe that people are basically the same the world over.

As a male 4 you have an uncanny ability to relate to women on a level which most men can't. Most women, at least in the American culture, are looking for a white knight to sweep them away and make them happy ever after. Guess what? 4's are looking for the same thing! Already you have a common viewpoint with women which other men don't. Show yourself to be different than other men and see where it leads. It can start by asking a woman to do you a favor. I'm talking about a total stranger. It's rare that she won't try to help as long as what you ask is reasonable. This may sound crazy but I met a lot of women in this manner. Where it goes from there, nobody knows. :)

Ev

: It just might be "not well educated/cultured" might be a bit of understatement, hell, I couln't say...

: I could imagine getting just about any kind of company in Texas could be a easier than in Europe, outside the catholic areas...again, just a hunch. Knowing people from here and there (including south eastern Texas, various other areas in the US, Israel, the nordic countries and england), I'd consider it a very realistic one.

: That bit Tiggy said about "in case you accuse them of sexually harassing you" has so much truth in it. As a man, it's not just about rejection, it's about that no matter what you say, the women seem think "Whatever that guy wants, I'm not giving". Try to strike up any nice conversations in such a preveiling mood. The jerks or "cretins" really do exist. Ev, if you'd see what it can be like in some places, you wouldn't be wondering.
: It's almost like two factions that have dug into treches and are ready in case the other one attacks. Of course, getting drunk enough changes temporarily the situation, just to be worse than ever on the next morning.
: I've seen enough of it and it disgusts me.

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: However, it's difficult for a nice guy to make the first move. (Speaking out of personal experience) How do you speak to an ice princess, anyway?
: I was in a part of the college I used to be in talked to a girl who's studying there, but didn't do that for long. Why? Because I'd expect to be considered a human being with feelings, not a "Schwein" initially.

: Talking about good places to meet a potential someone, I'd rule pubs, bars and clubs out right away. At least in here where I live. I've supported enough breweries and distilleries to know. Only good things you can find in a bar are beer and assorted spirits.

: As I've said before, I've never met a special someone and I often doubt I ever will. Still, I've given up conscious trying, because it seems more you try, less likely really finding what you are looking for is. Or then I'm just in a need of a time-out...

: Ronnie

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• Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:21:07 9/26/99 (0)
• Re: Let intuition guide you Ronnie 05:19:03 9/26/99 (0)

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