Posted by froggyTheFrog (9w1) (158.114.92.201) on April 30, 2002 at 20:12:53:
In Reply to: Question for heathererb and others w/ same situation posted by Margaret (206.203.36.168) on April 30, 2002 at 19:51:55:
Margaret:
It sounds to me like you would rather have a family. Why do you need an okay from the outside or other people's approval to do that? If you want everyone else's opinion, they all want you to do something different, based on what they value. So, why not do what you want instead and flip anybody off who disapproves? It is YOUR life, you know.
Wanting a family does not mean you must now label yourself "old-fashioned" or mean that you've somehow given up on your great mission in life to settle for something less. You will be happiest if you put yourself where you want to be.
Froggy
: heatherb, you left everything you had to move to your husbands home in Spain. Weren't you scared of it not working out? My cousin left her job, home, etc, to move to her bf's town too, (they are now married). I remember thinkg I could and would never do that. But now that I wnat kids, well..my question is how did you ever get over that 'pride' thing, that's what stopping me myabe, I don't want people (including myself) thinking less of me because I gave a potential good job just to see if it's possible to make a family. Maybe I'm just wondering, Is the decision for a woman to give up her job to start a family with a potential partner really bad? Or do you think it's okay?