Posted by heatherb (213.98.230.197) on May 01, 2002 at 04:29:08:
In Reply to: Question for heathererb and others w/ same situation posted by Margaret (206.203.36.168) on April 30, 2002 at 19:51:55:
: heatherb, you left everything you had to move to your husbands home in Spain. Weren't you scared of it not working out? My cousin left her job, home, etc, to move to her bf's town too, (they are now married). I remember thinkg I could and would never do that. But now that I wnat kids, well..my question is how did you ever get over that 'pride' thing, that's what stopping me myabe, I don't want people (including myself) thinking less of me because I gave a potential good job just to see if it's possible to make a family. Maybe I'm just wondering, Is the decision for a woman to give up her job to start a family with a potential partner really bad? Or do you think it's okay?
Hmm. Well, I knew that if things didn't work out, I could always go back. I don't know... it's not something I ever thought I would do, or worried about... it just happened this way. We had to make a decision and i was the one who had a more adaptable personality AND career!
Luckily, I haven't had to really choose between family and career. I work part time from home.
The only advice I can give you is that you have to really love this "potential partner", and follow your instinct, your heart. If you feel it might go wrong... then maybe it will... But you have to take risks in life or your life won't change...
The pride thing... I admit I felt proud of the fact that I was SO sure about my decision for once, to actually go through with such a romantic and risky adventure! But one thing, I never thought of it as giving up my job to start a family.
Again, you have to follow your heart.
And I do think it's OK to choose family over a job! It's a pesonal decision... and it is LOTS of WORK, it's 24 hours, not just 9-5...