Posted by froggyTheFrog (9w8) (158.114.92.201) on May 03, 2002 at 14:37:36:
In Reply to: Re: then again, posted by Primer Gray (208.251.7.66) on May 03, 2002 at 13:00:44:
Good point, Primer. (Thinner?)
There's a situation I have been in. The cost of moving and giving up my current life (sounds like the cost of moving would be your major concern at this point) was too great compared to what I would lose if I went to be with the other person. I would not move just for the sake of being with another person unless they told me "Absolutely!" I would not budge beforehand.
How much do you lose if you don't get what you want, Margaret? Nothing? Go for it, but expecting to be disappointed. A little or more? Do what you would want to do whether this person were in the picture or not. Hey, why don't you ask this guy how he feels? You have a lot less to lose from hearing "I don't know" or "No" over the phone than from making a move and then getting that answer.
Note: If he does say "I don't know" or "no", thank him for being honest. He's saving you a ton of trouble, even though he may be disappointing you.
Froggy