Posted by Ev on September 25, 1999 at 18:39:53:
Yes PN, brethren applies to you as well! :))
I have finally started to comprehend the difference between 4w3 & 4w5. I don't know why it has taken so long. Maybe y'all should start referring to me as ennea-dumbass, but please do it in a manner which will conceal my true identity.*LOL*
Seriously, I have been of the opinion that a 4 was pretty much a 4. This last round of bickering, along with a statement Derf made some time ago about 4w3's being misunderstood, has opened my eyes a bit. It seems that both groups want to be right but the 4w3's seem to "need" it more. Maybe need isn't the best term to describe it but it's the closest approximation I have at the moment. Could it be that 4w5's see failure more in abstract terms whereas 4w3's see it more in personal terms? I mean, I want to be right, but it doesn't devastate me if I'm not. Are 4w3's more personally devastated than 4w5's because they have more ego wrapped up in the fight? Am I way off base or close to the truth? After all, I have admitted to not being the most adept student of the enneagram. Your thoughts, please.
Ev