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Politeness succeeds in spreading truth.

Politeness succeeds in spreading truth.

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Posted by Tigs on September 27, 1999 at 16:43:34:

In Reply to: Re: You're not alone... posted by Summer on September 27, 1999 at 10:11:26:

There was a US spoof film on recently and one of the ongoing jokes was about people from Canada being ultra polite and picking up litter. Still all the Americans I've met have been charming, so it must just be that in certain arenas it is accepted that you go for the kill. Like lawyers in the States are nothing like lawyers (or we call them Barristers) here. There isn't the cut and thrust.

all a matter of how you take it? yes and how you give it! People are always saying that we're responsible for our own feelings, but they try to forget that we're also responsible for others feelings a lot of the time, or they deny it. If you take this a step up from conversation then it becomes ridiculous. Like isn't someone responsible for another's feelings if they rape them or mug them? It's scientifically absurd to suggest that we're all self-contained islands who can remain immune to each other.

If I come on here and there's an insensitive message, it can really make it hard for me to sleep, coming on top of present worries. Whereas if there is a nice message, it really helps me to cope with things.

It needn't affect the degree of intellectual rigour as no one is won over by hostility and if you believe something is true then you should try to convince others in a way that's likely to succeed.

Thanks Summer, Tigs.

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Re: Politeness succeeds in spreading truth. Derf 01:46:21 9/29/99 (1)
- Re: Politeness succeeds in spreading truth. Derf 01:47:35 9/29/99 (0)
Re: Politeness succeeds in spreading truth. Ev 16:59:25 9/27/99 (1)
- Re: Politeness succeeds in spreading truth. Tiggy 20:47:53 9/29/99 (0)

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: : There was a US spoof film on recently and one of the ongoing jokes was about people from Canada being ultra polite and picking up litter. Still all the Americans I've met have been charming, so it must just be that in certain arenas it is accepted that you go for the kill. Like lawyers in the States are nothing like lawyers (or we call them Barristers) here. There isn't the cut and thrust. : all a matter of how you take it? yes and how you give it! People are always saying that we're responsible for our own feelings, but they try to forget that we're also responsible for others feelings a lot of the time, or they deny it. If you take this a step up from conversation then it becomes ridiculous. Like isn't someone responsible for another's feelings if they rape them or mug them? It's scientifically absurd to suggest that we're all self-contained islands who can remain immune to each other. : If I come on here and there's an insensitive message, it can really make it hard for me to sleep, coming on top of present worries. Whereas if there is a nice message, it really helps me to cope with things. : It needn't affect the degree of intellectual rigour as no one is won over by hostility and if you believe something is true then you should try to convince others in a way that's likely to succeed. : Thanks Summer, Tigs.

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