Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive
Re: Support Group
Posted by Brenda on February 02, 1998 at 22:40:27:
In Reply to: Re: Support Group posted by Shanti on February 02, 1998 at 12:06:08:
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: : Yes! Thanks! Today the heart is okay. Tomorrow when I take one look at my boss, then I will feel the pain. She dislikes me, not because of my work, but just because, and as a 4, I have trouble dealing with it -- especially since she is so nice to my co-workers. I've tried different strategies: being nice to her anyway, ignoring her, telling her about the problem -- no luck so far. Thank god for the internet! A place where I can feel good. About the job, I LOVE my job. I don't want to leave just because of someone else's problem!
: Being a 4 at work has caused me so much misery. I know exactly what you
: mean about appreciating everyone else, but not me. People tend to underestimate me. I sometimes prove them wrong, but many times I "live down" to their expectations. Something comes over me... At least you realize it is your boss's problem.
: problem!
Yep, I do know what you mean about "living down" to their expectations. It seems that my boss ignores me and acts annoyed if I talk to her. Plus maybe she'll do a few tacky things, and then when I withdraw: stay in my office more, don't smile as much -- She wonders what's wrong and THEN if I say that there is any problem, she can point out that it is due to MY behavior! So then I can try being all cheery again, get ignored, and the cycle repeats. I have a cat/dog analogy of myself at work. A dog will greet its master who has abused it. I get tired of being the one at work who speaks and smiles only to be glared at. The day comes when I want to be a cat. A cat will stay alone rather than stand for any abuse!