Posted by Margaret (199.95.204.178) on January 31, 2003 at 14:58:29:
In Reply to: Re: The differnece between Thinker and Feeler in a rel posted by Nina (65.95.89.140) on January 31, 2003 at 13:09:20:
I guess the bottom line is all I want is a straight anser, does he want to be with me or not? I'm not saying h has to 'change', act like someone else, etc, etc, that's not what I was getting at. And he is not a "type" either. He can't be compared to anyone else, he's unique. That's not what I was meaning to do. He is an individual, a human being, a person, his own person. He is unique, he cannot be compared to. Period. That's something we already know.
All I want is to either get together with him in person or hear that he does not, so I can move on with my life. I want to move on and experience having a realtionship in actual physical person. Not on the internet anymore. No more realtionship on the internet. It's either in person or not at all. Bottom line. End of story.
And I need to know by this Sunday. If I don't receive an email or phone call, then it's done, I am no longer waiting, I am moving on, with or without him, I am moving on. Period.
> Hi;
> > Has anyone ever been in a realtionship with a Thinker and a Feeler and experienced such huge difference?
> My presonality type preference is INFP which would make me a Feeler, my husband on the other hand is ISTJ which would make him a Thinker (I think :-) or I feel?). Anyway, my husband is my greatest support and I derive my strenght from him. He tells me daily of how wonderul I am - in fact several times a day in any way. This has been very benifical for me because I've been unemployed since last year and I've had a hard time searching for a work. My self-esteem as a result suffered and if it hadn't been for my husband who is logical, understanding and down to earth but also very tactiful and loving, I would be in a really bad shape.
> So to answer to your question, no I haven't noticed a such a huge difference. He treats me the same way I would treat him if he had been going through a tough time. As a matter of fact, yesterday he brought me home flowers because "...you were looking so happy lately so I wanted that stage to last little longer..."
> You can teach a Thinker to treat you the way you like to be treated. Also, your personality type is just your preference, it doesn't mean that all peopla are 100% defined by it in every way -- everyone is unique after all.
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