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Re: Taking on bad habits

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Posted by Tiggy on October 02, 1999 at 08:09:07:

In Reply to: Re: Thanks...but i AM a Four! posted by Hal on October 01, 1999 at 09:29:30:

Depression is the noose that strangles my heart and drains it of all life. Apathy is the leash that drags me around wherever it wants to go.

How very poetic! I have saved your splendid sentences among my quotes. How can you feel miserable when you write so splendidly? Do you find that writing cheers you up? I do, because I start to take pleasure in the sentences I'm constructing. The trouble is I start off writing a serious formal letter and end up making witticisms because I've got on a high, or my essays end up rather journalistic.

I've found I'm taking on negative one aspects, though I see perfectionism as a positive for me as I used to be rather scrappy as I was ashamed of my writing, but having a computer has changed all that. I like making things as good as they can be to my way of thinking, whether its proofreading or making a room look nice. But it can lead to anger and dissapointment if you then find your (seemingly perfect) work criticized.

I'm terribly self-righteous because I do have a vision of how things should be, particularly of how people should behave towards one another and it's very hard to put that over. People say you're being idealistic and all you can say is, 'well I've done' it or 'I manage it'. Of course my ideals are tied up with my own strengths and I could be taken to pieces by anyone whose ideals were discipline or physical fitness. I do believe in not judging people, but the way things are, people are restricted in what they believe possible by a 1980's mind-set. We've had a whole decade to change, but I don't know which way it's going yet. I can see lots of positives like people getting together with the Web or becoming environmentally friendly, but also some negatives which have got worse, like kids being focussed on the latest designer wear and just aiming to have lots of money as if that were the only thing that could make them happy.

I don't think I'm taking on any more two qualities because I'm already quite Twoish as very relational, but the personal effectiveness stuff is what I want - like efficiency, productiveness, organisation. I have some three drives but not the qualities.

I'm not sure if taking a direct route is always the best way to absorb qualities. Sometimes we have to work on some other aspect before the thing we want comes quite naturally.

Tigs.

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: Depression is the noose that strangles my heart and drains it of all life. Apathy is the leash that drags me around wherever it wants to go. : : How very poetic! I have saved your splendid sentences among my quotes. How can you feel miserable when you write so splendidly? Do you find that writing cheers you up? I do, because I start to take pleasure in the sentences I'm constructing. The trouble is I start off writing a serious formal letter and end up making witticisms because I've got on a high, or my essays end up rather journalistic. : I've found I'm taking on negative one aspects, though I see perfectionism as a positive for me as I used to be rather scrappy as I was ashamed of my writing, but having a computer has changed all that. I like making things as good as they can be to my way of thinking, whether its proofreading or making a room look nice. But it can lead to anger and dissapointment if you then find your (seemingly perfect) work criticized. : I'm terribly self-righteous because I do have a vision of how things should be, particularly of how people should behave towards one another and it's very hard to put that over. People say you're being idealistic and all you can say is, 'well I've done' it or 'I manage it'. Of course my ideals are tied up with my own strengths and I could be taken to pieces by anyone whose ideals were discipline or physical fitness. I do believe in not judging people, but the way things are, people are restricted in what they believe possible by a 1980's mind-set. We've had a whole decade to change, but I don't know which way it's going yet. I can see lots of positives like people getting together with the Web or becoming environmentally friendly, but also some negatives which have got worse, like kids being focussed on the latest designer wear and just aiming to have lots of money as if that were the only thing that could make them happy. : I don't think I'm taking on any more two qualities because I'm already quite Twoish as very relational, but the personal effectiveness stuff is what I want - like efficiency, productiveness, organisation. I have some three drives but not the qualities. : I'm not sure if taking a direct route is always the best way to absorb qualities. Sometimes we have to work on some other aspect before the thing we want comes quite naturally. : Tigs.

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