Posted by micki on June 17, 1998 at 00:09:56:
In Reply to: Re: Everyday Social Interaction posted by Aislinn on June 16, 1998 at 22:30:22:
: Micky - I know EXACTLY what you're talking about! God, it's so good to know there are more people out there that have a problem with this!
: I live in a small place where everybody knows everybody, except me 'cause I just moved here - but I don't WANT to know everybody and I most certainly don't want THEM to know me!
: I really feel silly in the store, there are only two people working there and they seem to be very curious about who this newcommer (me) is, and it bugs me alot because I don't want them to notice me at all!
: And I don't like to talk to my neighbours too much either...I like to be a private person and I like to be able to chose WHO I want to talk with and when. And I often end up saying something totally stupid if people start a small-talk conversation with me. (Like telling them thngs I DON'T want them to know and even reveal intimate information they DIDN'T want to know!)
: I guess I come out as looking like a total weirdo, which is OK....I guess...Because I don't care what they think, do I?
: Hope to see more replies on this issue!
: -Aislinn
Hi Aislinn,
thank you for your response. I am glad to know someone feels the same way.
What really bothers me is when you are NOT a newcomer and that happens.
At least when you are a newcomer, no one really expects too much
interaction from you. But when you are going there for a while and
people see you but you don't talk--I guess I just get shy about making
the first move or don't know if I want to make any move, it just seems
that people expect it or something. Or I feel I SHOULD.
In fact, I kind of wish no one would be there that
I recognize at all----of course, it is getting late at night now and
perhaps I am feeling a little antisocial right now. And tired--guess
I better go to sleep.
Look forward to connecting on this matter some more.
By the way, does anyone know how to post a message without having the
whole previous message go on the screen with your new message, like
to clear the screen before you write your message?