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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: Locating a sourcePosted by Rho (24.61.40.6) on April 27, 2003 at 13:41:51: In Reply to: Locating a source posted by emoot(: (66.250.68.40) on April 26, 2003 at 10:04:01: > - Intimacy is the ability to give oneself to another without fear, and to be able to openly and freely accept the other person's gift of self in return. Trouble in forming intimacy can be fueled by fear of relationship failure or other types of failures which have added up over time. Also it could be fear of not meeting the expectations of others...guilt, shame and anger often come along with these fears. > Do you know where your unworthiness comes from? Are you experiencing guilt, shame or anger? Its not guilt. I don't have any feelings like that. Now, it may be anger, but I have problems with anger - I don't/can't express it. And I don't feel strongly like it could be shame, but there could be some of that. I definately have problems relating to anger. I can't stand being around it. I can't express it. I can't handle the idea of people being angry with me. *If* someone makes me angry, it is very easy for me to just turn my back on the relationship (I'm talking freinds, not lovers) and walk away. I become unable to talk when I get really angry. etc.
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