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Posted by Rho (24.61.40.6) on May 11, 2003 at 23:17:23:

In Reply to: can't break the despair posted by Minbari (171.75.236.224) on May 10, 2003 at 23:26:14:

> Are these "brain snakes"? How do I kill them?

These are *definately* 'brain snakes'.

I'm going to sound like a broken record. But if you have enough brain snakes, and they are big strong ones - you need therapy. That's how I tamed mine. 4 years of it.

One other thing, my roomate has a lot of snakes. One of her problems is that she has psycho anger outbursts - and a couple of time on me. I find this behavior unacceptible. She makes me so angry - and the only way I can handle it is to get away from her - and at the moment I most need to not see her, hear her etc she comes RUNNING AFTER me - when the one thing she really needs to do is give me space - and not make me more angry and not more repulsed by her prescence.

I think you need to give this person days or even weeks of space. Also, at some point, if you are not getting what you want from a person, why don't you just drop them? If your not getting satisfaction from this relationship, just put it behind you - convince yourself it never existed -- or rather, convince yourself that it's importance never existed.

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> > > Are these "brain snakes"? How do I kill them? > > These are *definately* 'brain snakes'. > I'm going to sound like a broken record. But if you have enough brain snakes, and they are big strong ones - you need therapy. That's how I tamed mine. 4 years of it. > > One other thing, my roomate has a lot of snakes. One of her problems is that she has psycho anger outbursts - and a couple of time on me. I find this behavior unacceptible. She makes me so angry - and the only way I can handle it is to get away from her - and at the moment I most need to not see her, hear her etc she comes RUNNING AFTER me - when the one thing she really needs to do is give me space - and not make me more angry and not more repulsed by her prescence. > I think you need to give this person days or even weeks of space. Also, at some point, if you are not getting what you want from a person, why don't you just drop them? If your not getting satisfaction from this relationship, just put it behind you - convince yourself it never existed -- or rather, convince yourself that it's importance never existed.

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