Re: Type traits - TO ALL.

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: This is what I don't like about this stuff. I hate reading descriptions like this. It's too dramatic. It should just say that fours' biggest problem is seeing the other side of the grass is greener and to realize that acceptance of the grass you're on now is KEY to health. Fours devalue 'self' (immediate here & now) and value 'other' (then & there) instead. This core 'habit' is what needs to be stopped most. Both should be valued equally. One should not want what is not within reach. Satisfaction needs to come from the present situation, the present moment, within the immediate. : I also disagree about 'search for self', it's not 'confusion' of who you are (that is the nine's problem); rather, it's not being satisfied with who you are, that you never feel you are 'fine with just the way you are now', that you usually find yourself 'lacking' (especially when compared to others, but also when not compared to others, you STILL feel you 'lack'). This is what fours need to overcome. ACCEPTANCE of self (4) as one is NOW, as opposed to DEFINING of self (9) as an individual. : Cecil : : : Below - a description of Type 4 - are there any bits you don't identify with? : : : 4 THE INDIVIDUALIST : : The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Intuitive, Expressive, : : Self-Absorbed, and Depressive : : (The Avoidant, Depressive, and Narcissistic Personality Disorders) : : Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance : : Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity) : : The Four with a Three-Wing: "The Aristocrat" : : The Four with a Five-Wing: "The Bohemian" : : Expanded Profile : : Healthy: Self-aware, introspective, on the "search for self," aware of feelings and inner impulses. Sensitive and intuitive both to self and others: gentle, tactful, compassionate. Highly personal, individualistic, "true to self." Self-revealing, emotionally honest, humane. Ironic view of self and life: can be serious and funny, vulnerable and emotionally strong. At Their Best: Profoundly creative, expressing the personal and the universal, possibly in a work of art. Inspired, self-renewing and regenerating—able to transform all their experiences into something valuable: self-creative. : : Average: Take an artistic, romantic orientation to life, creating a beautiful, aesthetic environment to cultivate and prolong personal feelings. Heighten reality through fantasy, passionate feelings, and the imagination. To stay in touch with feelings, they interiorize everything, taking everything personally, but become self-absorbed and introverted, moody and hypersensitive, shy and self-conscious, unable to be spontaneous or to "get out of themselves." Stay withdrawn to protect their self-image and to buy time to sort out feelings. Gradually think that they are different from others, and feel that they are exempt from living as everyone else does. They become melancholy dreamers, disdainful, decadent, and sensual, living in a fantasy world. Self-pity and envy of others leads to self-indulgence, and to becoming increasingly impractical, unproductive, effete, and precious. : : Unhealthy: When dreams fail, become self-inhibiting and angry at self, depressed and alienated from self and others, blocked and emotionally paralyzed. Ashamed of self, fatigued and unable to function. Tormented by delusional self-contempt, self-reproaches, self-hatred, and morbid thoughts: everything is a source of torment. Blaming others, they drive away anyone who tries to help them. Despairing, feel hopeless and become self-destructive, possibly abusing alcohol or drugs to escape. In the extreme: emotional breakdown or suicide is likely. : : Key Motivations: Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a "rescuer".

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