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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Hi everyone......!Posted by Summer on October 15, 1999 at 16:55:33:
Something's on my mind actually, and I'll put it to out there to you. How do you fours deal with a comment that has hurt you deeply, even if it wasn't intended to hurt you? Someone close to me has told me something that hurt so much, I'm having trouble sleeping at night. It has set off a whole load of insecurities and pain inside me, and of course much of it also has to do with how it's affecting my ego. The person who said it now recognizes it was a stupid thing to say, and now understands why I was so devastated by it, even though I did have to explain why. The problem is, I am having a very difficult time letting it go. I keeps playing it over and over in my head, and it is like torture. It's not like I want to do this to myself. I wish I could just have some kind of memory loss & never have heard it in the first place. But it was said, and I can't make it disappear. It has caused me a great deal of anxiety & even affected the way I feel about this person, which is the last thing I want it to do. Really. Do other fours have experiences with things like this? How do you deal with it? When does the damn pain stop? These are the times I wish desperately that I was not so sensitive. This is definitely not the most fun part of being a four. So, you guys, what say you???
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