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Re: Four Romantic Entanglements!

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Posted by Shadowsinger on June 29, 1998 at 17:53:35:

In Reply to: Four Romantic Entanglements! posted by John DiFool on March 15, 1998 at 16:28:25:

"Advance and retreat"

Well, I'm in a relationship with a 5 at the moment and if he retreats much farther I'll need a fishing pole to reach him.
Recently, I sent a letter asking him to at least make SOME romantic effort, or at the very least to not leave me doing all the work (planning dates, having to ask for hugs etc.)
Naturally, I've been a nervous wreck ever since. He's depressive and I don't know how stable he is and I'm absolutely terrified of what he might do to himself.

"Ideal Lover"

That's the hard part, he's the perfect friend and used to be the paramount gentle romantic. That isn't the case anymore. I suppose at some level I still look for the white charger, even though I know it's impractical.

"Fantasy vs. reality on dates"

Ahh yes, imagining all the wonderful touchy-feely moments that never happen. Yep that feels pretty familiar too. Or in the case of recent events, imagining all the horrible things that might happen and trying to brace myself for being unceremoniously dumped.

Relationships are never easy but when you're dealing with someone who seems to do all the emotional reaching out of a block of balsa wood, it's pretty hard to keep from losing your mind when that physical/emotional connection is so important to you.

Does anyone else know of a 5 relationship with a 4 that works who could provide some advice?

-Shadow-

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: "Advance and retreat" : Well, I'm in a relationship with a 5 at the moment and if he retreats much farther I'll need a fishing pole to reach him. <wan smile> : Recently, I sent a letter asking him to at least make SOME romantic effort, or at the very least to not leave me doing all the work (planning dates, having to ask for hugs etc.) : Naturally, I've been a nervous wreck ever since. He's depressive and I don't know how stable he is and I'm absolutely terrified of what he might do to himself. : "Ideal Lover" : That's the hard part, he's the perfect friend and used to be the paramount gentle romantic. That isn't the case anymore. I suppose at some level I still look for the white charger, even though I know it's impractical. : "Fantasy vs. reality on dates" : Ahh yes, imagining all the wonderful touchy-feely moments that never happen. Yep that feels pretty familiar too. Or in the case of recent events, imagining all the horrible things that might happen and trying to brace myself for being unceremoniously dumped. : Relationships are never easy but when you're dealing with someone who seems to do all the emotional reaching out of a block of balsa wood, it's pretty hard to keep from losing your mind when that physical/emotional connection is so important to you. : Does anyone else know of a 5 relationship with a 4 that works who could provide some advice? : -Shadow-

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