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Re:To post, or not to post; that's the question.

Re:To post, or not to post; that's the question.

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Posted by Tigs. on October 18, 1999 at 21:17:15:

In Reply to: Re:To post, or not to post; that's the question. posted by Hal on October 18, 1999 at 17:26:22:

Hhmm. I don't think people usually do it to hurt the other person, but then I only know about myself and other females doing it, but to retain one's dignity. On the other hand, when I do it, it's to get a response, just to hear from them, and because I want to make everything allright between us. I seek forgiveness, but still telling them the truth. This doesn't work, I admit, but that doesn't mean I'm wrong to do it. Just I hate it when they threaten to set the police on you and quote the public order act or something. That Mark, who I'd happily shared a flat with, who I'd had loads of laughs with, gone to the gym with, been down to Somerset with, been out and met his friends - that he could a few days later say something like that! I think it is their behaviour that's odd; not mine. Sometimes you can be behaving perfectly normally and people give you an odd response. Like Jonathan just not turning up at the weekend after saying on the Wednesday that he was coming. You can't deduce from that that you were wrong to invite him over. you might not do it again, but you weren't morally or intellectually wrong for having done so. You just have to have a sense of certainty that you are doing what's right. And I suppose the only way to get and keep that, IS to do what's right. (Do I sound Oneish?)

I HAVE written a short letter to Jonathan to CLOSE the situation in a definate way, so that I'm certain it's over. If I just don't hear from him, I could be thinking, he may turn up again, as he often has. My other reason is because I want to be the one that's seen to finish it, even if he made the choice. I also want to piss him off, by his loss of pride in being dumped. He deserves it! I'm not trying to 'effect a change' in him, Jasper, because I don't care if he changes or not as I won't be seeing him. I just hope he sends my book of Chinese poetry back, which is the surface reason for writing - it helps me sleep.

Please bear with this rant.

Tigs.

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Re:To post, or not to post; that's the question. Hal 08:22:09 10/19/99 (6)
- Re:To post, or not to post; that's the question. Jasper 10:26:34 10/19/99 (5)
  - Re:To lose or not to lose; that's the question. Tiggy in mourning. 21:17:09 10/19/99 (4)
    - Re:To lose or not to lose; that's the question. Jasper 10:48:00 10/20/99 (3)
      - Re:To lose or not to lose; that's the question. Jasper 11:28:14 10/20/99 (2)
        
        Re:To love or not to love; that's the question. Tiggy. 20:00:36 10/22/99 (0)
        
        A lawyer who doesn't practice law; can't get much more 4 than that! (nt) Ev 12:46:39 10/20/99 (0)

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: Hhmm. I don't think people usually do it to hurt the other person, but then I only know about myself and other females doing it, but to retain one's dignity. On the other hand, when I do it, it's to get a response, just to hear from them, and because I want to make everything allright between us. I seek forgiveness, but still telling them the truth. This doesn't work, I admit, but that doesn't mean I'm wrong to do it. Just I hate it when they threaten to set the police on you and quote the public order act or something. That Mark, who I'd happily shared a flat with, who I'd had loads of laughs with, gone to the gym with, been down to Somerset with, been out and met his friends - that he could a few days later say something like that! I think it is their behaviour that's odd; not mine. Sometimes you can be behaving perfectly normally and people give you an odd response. Like Jonathan just not turning up at the weekend after saying on the Wednesday that he was coming. You can't deduce from that that you were wrong to invite him over. you might not do it again, but you weren't morally or intellectually wrong for having done so. You just have to have a sense of certainty that you are doing what's right. And I suppose the only way to get and keep that, IS to do what's right. (Do I sound Oneish?) : I HAVE written a short letter to Jonathan to CLOSE the situation in a definate way, so that I'm certain it's over. If I just don't hear from him, I could be thinking, he may turn up again, as he often has. My other reason is because I want to be the one that's seen to finish it, even if he made the choice. I also want to piss him off, by his loss of pride in being dumped. He deserves it! I'm not trying to 'effect a change' in him, Jasper, because I don't care if he changes or not as I won't be seeing him. I just hope he sends my book of Chinese poetry back, which is the surface reason for writing - it helps me sleep. : Please bear with this rant. : Tigs.

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