Re: Brenda's latest reply

Posted by John DiFool on February 04, 1998 at 13:36:40:

In Reply to: Re: Brenda's latest reply posted by Mark on February 04, 1998 at 12:17:48:

Yeh Mark, I'm basically in the same boat! I never get to the point where
I am sick and tired of being around someone because they usually dump me
before that point is reached! Probably because I allow myself to get
"pulled in," as you put it, too early, and not many people can handle my
intensity I have found out. Sooooo now I try to slow myself down, be
patient, take my time and not pressure the other person. It's hard and
takes some Oneish discipline, but I actually feel better not riding the
emotional roller-coaster.

As for working with a hard boss, I know what you mean! My advisor
in my graduate program is a One (a rather stern and nay even rude One
at that) and I always find myself gingerly baby-stepping around as if
on hot coals when around her! I don't think shoving an Enneagram book
under her face and saying-"Look! You're a One, I'm a Four and that's
why we don't get along very well!"-would work very well...anybody have any
advice on how to handle pain-in-the-neck bosses?

I second the motion to not get entrapped/take pride in one's Enneatype.
It defeats the whole purpose to allow yourself to indulge in your type's
idiosyncracies and even vices. I find culturing a certain Buddhist
detachment helps-tho admittedly I am guilty of the above from time-to-time!

---John DiFool (who didn't get long-winded for a change!)

Follow Ups:

• I can relate N.W. 17:31:50 2/05/98 (0)
• Re: John's comment Mark 18:43:12 2/04/98 (4)
  • Re: John's comment John DiFool (4w5) 17:18:47 2/06/98 (3)
    • a response to Mark and a question for John crystallynn 20:17:45 2/23/98 (0)
    • John's latest reply Mark 09:40:54 2/07/98 (1)
      • Re: Mark's latest reply ;) John DiFool 13:03:24 2/08/98 (0)

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