Re: being an adult 4

Posted by Konrad on October 20, 1999 at 15:50:48:

In Reply to: being an adult 4 posted by jason on October 20, 1999 at 03:13:23:

: did anyone here experience that having graduated college or h.s. that they had to fit into the "adult" role; it's probably just me, but i'm curious to see if anyone felt like this whether it's due to being a 4 (which i highly doubt). i'd like some advice on just being an adult. i felt like had to let go of my interests: learning, my sense of joy, acting. i got depressed...i felt like i had to fulfill the role of an "adult."

: any advice. well..not advice. how do you look at it? i'm tired of advice from ppl...i feel like i have to follow wat's right for me. i can't live by these norms shit...i feel like i have to be another person....i deny myself...it's depressing...i get depressed.

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I can relate; it was a shock to hit the "real world" after being in
a university environment where I spent most of my time on my acting,
and having to spend a lot of my waking hours engaged in the "adult"
activity of some meaningless job to support myself. For a sensitive
type that kind of chasm between what one loves and humdrum responsibilities
can be crushing, and was to me. I'd write pages and pages of laments
about how much my life sucked. This was what a lot of my life felt like
in my mid-20s. I'm 31 now and I've got a much steadier sense of
balance and control over my life, and I've come a long way in realizing
the dreams I had in my "pre-adult" life, building an acting career.

Do you think of being "adult" as a state where you give up dreams like
being an actor, living an artistic life? I don't think of it that way,
though a lot of societal adult voices will tell you that. I think true
adulthood is more like gaining the patience and wisdom to refine and
pursue your dreams effectively, and work with what's happening at present.
I still haven't fully realized my goals, so I'd have plenty of reason
to be depressed if I wasn't actively engaged in realizing them.

Though you didn't ask for advice, I'll just share that certain "adult"
(or maybe Type One) things have really helped me, like discipline and
exercise. The Artist's Way is a really good book that I used to pretty
much turn my life around towards my goals.

Konrad

Follow Ups:

• Re: being an adult 4 jason 01:53:25 10/21/99 (3)
  • Refining dreams & making them manifest Konrad 16:10:32 10/21/99 (2)
    • YES, STRENGTHENING YOUR THREE WING!(nt) TIGS. 20:33:24 10/21/99 (1)
      • Re: YES, STRENGTHENING YOUR THREE WING!(nt) jason 02:50:00 10/22/99 (0)

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