Re: What type do these traits match with?

Posted by Jimmy on October 23, 1999 at 20:36:23:

In Reply to: What type do these traits match with? posted by Cory on October 23, 1999 at 19:45:39:

: -Incredible self-consciousness. Not wearing something for fear of being stared at.
: -I have a very strong fear of having others think negative about me. I like being talked about - if its positive.
: -The other day on my lunch break, two employees sat down next to me. I couldn't really relax, because I was thinking about what I was going to say to them. I was obliged to make them feel comfortable. I didn't want to act coldly to them. I couldn't let them think negatively about me.
: -Fear of unexpected, improvising situations. If someone asks me a spontaneous question, I freeze. Then I say something really stupid and unoriginal. If a girl flirted with me, I'd freak. If someone asked me a personal question, I'd freak. But by freak, I mean my mind would shut down, wouldn't be able to concentrate, and I would retreat.
: -Reluctance to act out my desires. I would like to write, move out of my house, among other things, and I CAN do that, it's just I won't. I don't know why, I just won't. Its like there's some brick wall I can't get past.
: -Inability to concentrate. Very absent-minded. Sometimes my intuitive and sensory functions seem dead...like I'm weak on both at the same time. A mindless ghost.
: -What makes me feel better about myself: Having completed a very beautiful piece of writing.
: -I seek attention from others. When I help them, I want them to know I'm helping them, and I want gratitude. Positive feelings from people, never negative!
: -Uncertainty about myself.
: -Importance of knowing who I am.
: -A desire to define myself. I am a "so-and-so". I LOVE to be labeled.
: -Pretty critical of other's ethics. (Although I NEVER show it)
: -Mysterious and indescribable to others. All they can say about me is: Nice and quiet. No one knows anything else.
: -Fear of the real world. Very out of touch with instincts and natural desires. Worship of the mind world.
: -Brooding over my feelings.
: -Cynical thoughts about other's motives. I'm not trusting, but will go along with a person, but keep my guard up. If I do fall for something, some may perceive me as gullible, but it's just that I failed to understand the situation. My intuition failed me.

: That's all I can think of right now. I am so simple yet complex.

: -Cory

Cory,
Just so you know your not alone in the world....
I can identify with every point you made....
It helps me to to:
1) Trust God....I talk to Jesus every day and lean on Him. He is always there for you.
Because of my faith in Jesus, I was supernaturally healed of debilitating depression....
I still have my days.....but I function on a much higher level than I ever have. I hold a job now. I dropped out of a college, due to the depression.
2)Act objectively (like a One) and don't go by subjective feelings..
It helps me if I can "ride out" my emotions....negative emotions are just downward spirals...I try to start thanking God for everything that I DO have.
3)I still have a lot of discomfort around people...esp. those I don't know..conversation doesn't just "flow" for me. I struggle with shame. But you have to make the effort...4's have based their identity on how they are "different" from everyone else. But we are all human, and we all have things in common. You must remind yourself of this. We just "feel" different; in some ways we are all unique; but there is common ground.

I hope this helps my friend.
Jimmy

Follow Ups:

• Thanks Cory 21:04:12 10/23/99 (5)
  • Re: Thanks Jenny 16:28:56 10/24/99 (1)
    • ESTJs can offer a good human shield when confronted by a robber :) Cory [nt] 16:32:18 10/24/99 (0)
  • Re: Thanks comments Tiggy 11:17:55 10/24/99 (2)
    • ESTJ = Evil Sadistic Total Jerk Cory 16:31:24 10/24/99 (1)
      • Re: Bigoted Types. Tiggy. 17:39:12 10/24/99 (0)

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