Re: Info on Enne/MBTI relations

Posted by Hal on July 22, 1998 at 08:27:56:

In Reply to: Re: Info on Enne/MBTI relations posted by Ayla on July 21, 1998 at 15:38:32:

: Thanks for responding. My 9 friend is definitely in need of closure. Should I,
: as a four, even be "thinking" about ways to help her? When is the risk of
: disintegration too high?
:

Absolutely, you should be thinking of ways to help her. It is clear to me that you want to help your friend because you care about her, not because you're trying to manipulate her and gain her affections. Anything done out of love for another is a good thing.

The danger of disintigration comes when you're acting out of fear--Fours under stress disintigrate to Two because we're afraid. And then it's not a case of disintigration coming about by thinking about helping someone--it's almost a reflex reaction.

I have found that my greatest personal growth occurred when I DID go out of my way to help others and open my heart to them. These times were not a reflex disintigration, but a conscious decision based on the feeling that I really did want to unselfishly help a friend. It's just a matter of acting from a place of love rather than a place of fear.

- Hal -

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