|
Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive 4's and childrenPosted by soleil on July 22, 1998 at 22:46:58:
I am at that time in my life where I am making major life decisions. Lucky me!! One of those decisions is whether or not to have children. I never was one of those women who went crazy over babies or desired to have children. In fact, I find it draining to be around kids sometimes(is this a four-thing?), although there are some kids I enjoy doing things with. Some other feelings I have about children. I fear that a baby would be an enormous drain on me emotionally, financially and physically(I've already have health challenges). I am also afraid that once I have a child, my dream of being an artist and of moving to another city will be greatly hampered. My goals now have been to heal myself(I've had chronic dis-ease for years) and to find "my place" in this life. I'm wondering thought if this will ever happen and if I'm addicted to the chase(I've been trying to find my place for over 10 years now!!!). Anyway, others have commented that I'd be a good mom. My question is, are my feelings about children related to my fourness (I'm a 4w5) or are they my individual feelings? Other fours I've met haven't been crazy with the idea of motherhood, either. Does that mean that four's, ingeneral, don't make good mom's? Are there any fours out there who were unsure about motherhood, yet when it happened are happy that it did? I'd love to hear from you. I never thought I'd be asking these questions, but I am now because I am with a man who wants to have a family... and I need to decide in order to continue with this relationship.
|
|