Re: 4+4=Love?

Posted by Derf on August 04, 1998 at 22:01:06:

In Reply to: 4+4=Love? posted by Anon on August 01, 1998 at 20:03:10:

Dear Anon -

NO!!!

Just kidding. But seriously, it depends on how entranced you are. Read Riso's Nine Levels of Development for the Four, and try to see where you can place yourself. And do a little vicarious guessing on the part of your love interest (or ask this person to read likewise). Here's how it works: if you two are fairly liberated, then you both will realize that in order to be satisfied in love, it will demand a lot of WORK from both of you, much of which is quite less romantic than the payoff. You will acknowledge this reality of work AND reward (getting stuck on the "work" side is as unhealthy as trying to enjoy the reward without the work), and maybe you'll even appreciate the BALANCE that the truth represents.

If, on the other hand, you are both entranced, then you will be attracted to each other because you both see the world, and yourselves, similarly. You will feel that you understand each other (and this is true, after all), but alas, you will eventually resign yourselves to sitting around very BORED, waiting for some divine spark to throw you into ecstasy. I've seen it happen. You will eventually conclude that you once had "something," but it just isn't there anymore. A sensible person should then say, "Did you WORK at this, dumb dodo?" But alas. Tragic ... ugh ... pretty pathetic, actually.

Good luck! (Was that an ironic statement...?) Bye Anon.

Sincerely,

Derf the Obnoxious :D

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