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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Distraught Four in high schoolPosted by Benjamin on February 07, 1998 at 22:12:41: Hello everyone, I myself am not a Four but a Five who has made friends with a very distraught Four in high school. I, being a Five, have been able to make observations but have not been able to help her. I know that I am one of few people who cares about this person, and input from other Fours (or any other personality type) would be very helpful to me. Helen Palmer's description of the "Tragic Romantic" was surprisingly accurate. The Four that I've been talking to stated, “I see the world through rose-tinted windows,” meaning that she feels like an outsider to ordinary reality; everything seems different to her. She tells me that she has a romanticized (or idealistic, focused on that which she cannot attain) view on life. She has a Five wing, and therefore feels withdrawn and isolated, only serving to implant her state of despondency. Recently she went too far in her depression; she hurt herself to “show the pain” that she was feeling to others. This despair was so encompassing for her that she spent the last few days in a state of severe depression, spending some time talking to her teachers and the few friends she had -- even if it meant skipping a few classes to do so. On the Enneagram, Fours "disintegrate" into the One personality type, whose expression of pathology is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. She has been diagnosed with OCD and is on medication because of this. Could it be that she is caught within this state of disintegration, and reacts to it with depression, feeding her core persona of melancholy even further? Comments?
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