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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive closenessPosted by Ann on August 15, 1998 at 22:35:14: I just got back from a small summer girls camp where I was having the time of my life for 2 weeks. Everyone there was so supportive and unintimidating and uncliquish you'd swear you were in a 4-ish paradise, though few (maybe none) were 4s there. Anyway, despite this wonderful social situation, I found it difficult to get close to anyone. I feel weird giving my friends hugs and find myself pushing them away. I know 4s tend to have a push-pull form of relating with the opposite sex, and I suppose that applies to regular friendships as well. What can I do to help get over this. I hate not being able to make eye contact with someone who obviously cares about me. BTW...Cali, I'm glad you liked the shyness page. I read some of what you wrote about relationships. I agree with Hal that its great that you know yourself this well at age 15 (I'm 15 too). Anyway, don't let it bum you out if you remain boy-less. College is the time to get cracking on that. Highschool relationships don't usually amount to much, although they do wonders for racing hormones. Fours feel that they are missing something and try to find it in others. Its all inside you, don't ever forget it. :-)
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