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Of Love and Pain

Of Love and Pain

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Posted by Ann on August 19, 1998 at 22:30:48:

In Reply to: Re: madness posted by Hal on August 18, 1998 at 14:53:03:

This is a little branch off the main path, but the conversation at hand made me think of it.

I read recently about the idea that everything we do we do to either gain pleasure or aviod pain. Our minds (and bodies) tend to feel it more imparitive to avoid pain than to persue pleasure. An example is in a social encounter. Say you want to ask a guy out. Perhaps you have been rejected by others in the past, or you know you will be nervous and embarrassed as you do it. Your mind will tell you "don't do that, avoid the pain (of rejection, nervousness, embarrassment)". This can overpower your desire for the pleasure of getting it over with, and the potential pleasure of a new relationship with that person.

In that sense, everything is about pleasure (Love) and Pain. Sometimes it seems like there is more pain in the world because that is what we are mose reactive (is that a word?) to.

I just thought you guys might find that interesting.

Ann.

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: This is a little branch off the main path, but the conversation at hand made me think of it. : I read recently about the idea that everything we do we do to either gain pleasure or aviod pain. Our minds (and bodies) tend to feel it more imparitive to avoid pain than to persue pleasure. An example is in a social encounter. Say you want to ask a guy out. Perhaps you have been rejected by others in the past, or you know you will be nervous and embarrassed as you do it. Your mind will tell you "don't do that, avoid the pain (of rejection, nervousness, embarrassment)". This can overpower your desire for the pleasure of getting it over with, and the potential pleasure of a new relationship with that person. : In that sense, everything is about pleasure (Love) and Pain. Sometimes it seems like there is more pain in the world because that is what we are mose reactive (is that a word?) to. : I just thought you guys might find that interesting. : Ann.

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