Re: Rejection--always personal?

Posted by Hal on October 06, 1998 at 09:17:27:

In Reply to: Re: Rejection--always personal? posted by Summer on October 01, 1998 at 14:54:09:

: Hal, I have had this experience too. I don't think you have to take her rejection as personal - even if she meant it that way. Really, if she is going to write you off because you don't have the same religious beliefs, well, that is sad - and her problem.

: Some people are just not as open minded and it personally offends them that you don't share their beliefs. But there is not one thing you can do about it except say I'm sorry you feel that way - I just don't see things the same way as you do. I hope we can still be friends. If they don't, sounds cold but c'est la vie. You can tell her you are open to remaining friends, but you can't do much more than that. Then it really becomes their problem, not yours. And I don't mean that in a cold way, either. But you have to be realistic.

: I was in touch with someone on these boards a few months back. One day she got offended by my casual advise - which I didn't really expect her to take, esp. since we were both advising each other on different things - more as a source of comfort. One day, she didn't like what I wrote in an e-mail and she cut me off, just like that. At first it hurt, but I quickly realized there wasn't much I could do - and I know that I didn't do anything really, that demanded that kind of action. So I went on with life and chalked it up to a learning experience. If she decides to stay in touch with you, great, - all the more power to you. But if she doesn't, I would just move on.

Thank you, all, for your information, advice, and caring. It is all helpful.

- Hal -

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