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To Jeseppy, re: Soliciting Advice

To Jeseppy, re: Soliciting Advice

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Posted by Donald on October 10, 1998 at 18:13:40:

Jeseppy,

I'm in pretty much the same boat. The one I love discarded me abruptly and I was left with anger, retret, sorrow, jealousy, and the rest of it.

Recently she called and I hung up the phone without answering. I was afraid.

My decision: if she calls again, I will say that I wish her the best but I do not wish to speak with her or to see her again. I know this sounds harsh, but I feel I must protect myself.

Turning now to your situation, I would say the same thing. If it will be too painful to confront this person, decline to do so. We are constrained to be compassionate to others, but we must also be compassionate toward ourselves. As the saying goes, if you can't love yourself... Well, you know the rest!

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: Jeseppy, : I'm in pretty much the same boat. The one I love discarded me abruptly and I was left with anger, retret, sorrow, jealousy, and the rest of it. : Recently she called and I hung up the phone without answering. I was afraid. : My decision: if she calls again, I will say that I wish her the best but I do not wish to speak with her or to see her again. I know this sounds harsh, but I feel I must protect myself. : Turning now to your situation, I would say the same thing. If it will be too painful to confront this person, decline to do so. We are constrained to be compassionate to others, but we must also be compassionate toward ourselves. As the saying goes, if you can't love yourself... Well, you know the rest!

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