Posted by Ronnie on December 04, 1999 at 00:37:26:
In Reply to: This discussion... posted by Julian on December 03, 1999 at 18:08:18:
: Um.. don't mean to butt in here, but I am I guess!
I like people who butt in.
: Ronnie, if I were built like you I wouldn't feel afraid to express my fourishness. So perhaps people wonder why it is that you feel you need to take a guarded position. I, on the other hand, am a complete featherweight, couldn't possibly defend myself, and sensitive to boot. Yet I try, anyway, to the extent I can not to hold anything back whereas I suspect people can sense you put up a bit of a guard tower and they're like, "huh? what's this guy got to be afraid of?"
Just for the record, I'm not a four, I'm a 9w8. And I doubt if people think I'm afraid of something, it probably comes across differently.
: What I said is, I realize, a pretty sophomoric observation but perhaps this isn't: Perhaps if you were to consciously take in less information about what was going on around you...close your eyes, as it were, stop taking in information about people without reciprocating...people would respond differently to you. I know I'm talking out of my ass here. I dunno, just wanted to say, hey I AM a vulnerable guy. I've tried weights, weight-gain formula, the works...nothing. Maybe you should realize you possess something not all of us have...
You mean bulk? It's not always great. What you suggest sounds interesting, although I don't know if it would help. I'll have to try that too.
: Hope I'm not too out of line here...
My advice for you is that try to be less consciously aware of that "I'm so vunerable and sensitive", when you have something to say, like you did now, say it. For some people that advice is bad, since they aren't aware of what's likely to cause trouble to them when said aloud, but you seem to understand that.
: Julian
Ronnie