Alone is a state of mind

Posted by Matches on December 08, 1999 at 10:12:53:

In Reply to: Re: Being on the ball posted by Hal on December 08, 1999 at 08:55:06:

: Why so down on yourself, Matches? I have never seen you as a stupid human being, or as a failure. You have a lot of valuable insights and express them very well. And whether or not you believe it, I and many others here ARE like you--I often feel lost, depressed, hopeless, confused, worthless, and like a failure. You are worth a great deal to me and everyone else here, and you are not alone.

: - Hal -

The title pretty much says it all. A long time ago, I posted about the concept of
being alone, but it wasn't very good, because I was really lazy at the time, and didn't feel
like explaining myself.

The point was that "alone," like the millenium, is a state of mind.

You can be by yourself. You can be the only one in a room. You're alone.
You can be with one other person in the same room. Then you might say, "I'm not alone." Or,
you might say, "She and I were alone." And even if you considered yourself "alone" with
another person, they might very well say, "excuse me, I need to be alone."

We're only as alone as we think we are. Its a cyclical deal, really. Because
if you perceive yourself to be "alone," you get the notion that there's no one who
understands you or what you're going through, which makes it that much harder
to bust out. You withdraw, and the more you do that, the more "alone" you feel.

Follow Ups:

• Alone, Solitude, Loneliness Brian C. 21:02:38 12/08/99 (6)
  • Thanks Julian 16:35:24 12/10/99 (0)
  • Thank you for your understanding Brian, it lifts the burden a little NT Tiggy 18:57:00 12/09/99 (0)
  • Re: Alone, Solitude, Loneliness Hal 08:52:32 12/09/99 (3)
    • I think we never internalised acceptance. NT Tiggy 18:58:42 12/09/99 (0)
    • short response Brian C. 14:30:52 12/09/99 (1)
      • Re: short response Hal 15:20:52 12/09/99 (0)

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