What bothers us is what we cannot accept in ourselves?

Posted by Julian on December 10, 1999 at 16:28:14:

In Reply to: Re: Shadows posted by Gigi on December 09, 1999 at 12:06:39:

Can this be generalized to mean everything that bothers us about another person is something which we don't like about ourselves?

I'm currently in a hotheaded dispute with a friend over metaphysics (enough said already) and I keep accusing him of being arrogant and elitist, which he is but I think it wouldn't bother me so much if I didn't have those very traits myself. I know it is exactly the same way I used to act. So how does someone who isn't bothered by that respond?

Julian

: I have this book The Tao of Negotiation by Joel Edelman and Mary Beth Crain.

: It says at one place:"Perhaps pushy and domineering people would not bug you if you didn't have a part of yourself way down deep that was like that, and that was abhorrent to your other selves. It's as if an inner committee comprised oif all your inner selves decided that it did not like this part that could be pushy."

: :*) Gigi

: : I would think your hatred of ESTJ's is definitely a shadow reaction. It's those repressed traits in ourselves that we hate in the opposite type. They just seem so repulsive.
: : This makes me realize Madonna hooks my "anima", she doesn't constellate a shadow reaction.

: : : I'm an INFP, but I don't particularily care for ESTJs! Stalin is an ESTJ and I don't really care for him! Although, maybe I'm short-changing the ESTJs by looking at them negatively. I'm sure I could respect a positive ESTJ, but it doesn't seem like too many of them are out there.

: : : -Cory

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• Re: What bothers us is what we cannot accept in ourselves? Gigi 17:28:20 12/11/99 (0)
• Yes, Julian.... Jimmy 16:57:54 12/10/99 (0)

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