This should be interesting.

Posted by Ev on December 12, 1999 at 20:06:50:

In Reply to: That's unfair Ev, I just felt we should all decide ...... posted by Tiggy on December 12, 1999 at 17:00:09:

: You say that if we make limitations then who will decide? But obviously we would ask the opinions of those who decided on it in the first place. I don't see that it's okay for one person to say, yes non-Fours or anybody can come, any more than it is to say that only fours or particular people can come. I wasn't setting myself up as arbiter, just giving my personal response to a question which needed to be asked - and was asked. I'm not the only person who felt uncomfortable about who was coming and who wasn't. Both Cathy and Julian expressed a preference for Fours not coming, and I think Matches was dubious, thought I wouldn't want to quote him on it. I simply felt that we should be consulted before all and sundry were invited. And yes I do believe in limiting the numbers because an event with ten or so people is quite different to an event with 20 or so.

: As to the danger aspect, this doesn't just apply to physical danger, but emotional. I have had some online abuse recently and wish to be in a reasonably safe space when I'm there. We can hang out with just anyone the rest of the year. If I just wanted to hang out with people interested in the Enneagram, I could do that in England. Your point about my parents is insensitive; my parents are elderly and whatever my age would be concerned about my going out to America and meeting up with a bunch of strangers. I can only reassure them if I feel I know something about those strangers.
: Furthermore, just because I have made an attempt to be organised about this, and consult people both on here and on icq about every aspect of it, I don't see why I should be portrayed as a megolomaniac. As it was put forward as a Four gathering, it hadn't even occurred to me that people would invite just anyone without consulting the rest of us. I admit I would have no objections to Ryan or Brian C. but there are others whom I wouldn't be comfortable about having along and I'm sure I wouldn't be the only one.

Hello Tigs,

It'll be interesting to see how we can limit the number of attendees to 10 and still talk about the get-together on this board. I would guess that a great many more than 10 will express interest in coming. Among just the old-timers I can think of 5 who have said they'll be coming if possible. Numbers may not ultimately be a problem because there are always more people who make a tentative commitment than who show up.

In the best of all possible worlds I wouldn't argue with just having 10 or so 4's get together but this will become dicey if people want to bring spouses and significant others. Maybe we could have a large meeting during the day and then break out into smaller groups during the evening. Remember, I *am* an introvert so I don't get a big kick out of dealing with a lot of people for any extended period. It wears me out! But, having said all this, the problem of how to limit numbers is still going to be tough to deal with.

Ev

Follow Ups:

• Well, Mrs. Ev can come. Most of us don't have spouses; we're romantic failures. NT Tiggy 21:33:41 12/12/99 (1)
  • We were assuming Mrs. Ev was coming anyway. NT Tiggy 10:44:52 12/13/99 (0)

Post a Followup