Posted by Derf on December 19, 1998 at 18:30:11:
In Reply to: What to do? posted by Milly on December 19, 1998 at 11:08:27:
I'm always wary about sputtering advice when I'm not familiar with the situation, or even when I think I am. But a suggestion never hurts.
Sorry, but you gotta look at her side too. Sure - tell your side to her face and all, too... but you can get to that later. Meantime....
Let's see... to further my presumptuousness, let me try to imagine the emotions one might go through upon being both booted out and shunned....
shocked
saddened
angered
stripped of dignity
She may have gone a little overboard, and mistreated you. But she considered you her friend, and she didn't want to be shunned from your life. I'll bet that shock got to her most of all.
Even if she's over the shock and the bitterness, her pride may not allow her to open up to you again unless you apologize to her. I know you're sure you did nothing wrong. Wouldn't it be great if she could consider your feelings? Why don't you take the initiative, and try considering hers... and take it from there.
If I've been vague, I've probably done that on purpose. I'm not going to try to organize a long-winded diatribe about what you should do. That would make me sound like an ass. Of course, a short, diffuse diatribe of the same sort, which I've offered you, probably makes me sound like an ass of another sort. But I like that kind of ass better. :)
I sincerely hope you two end up getting along!