Posted by Boon on December 21, 1998 at 10:29:00:
In Reply to: What to do? posted by Milly on December 19, 1998 at 11:08:27:
Perhaps in your stressed 4 state, you have disintegrated
to point 2 the giver/helper whereby you tried to please
both your friends by giving "sympathy" and "support" .
In the healthy 1 state, you would have intergrated towards 1,
the idealist/perfectionist and pointed out what was wrong
with them to them in an unbiased manner.
Also a stressed 6 disintegrates toward 3 seeking approvals.
So 4 and 6 disintergrated to 2 and 3 which are right next
door to each other in the feeling triad and an unhealthy collusion
based on giving and taking of sympathy was established.