Open-mindedness

Posted by Tiggy - XNFP on December 16, 1999 at 19:59:02:

In Reply to: Close-mindedness posted by Cory on December 15, 1999 at 22:49:53:

You know what is not normal? Going out and engaging with others - that's abnormal!

Are you serious about the above? I am not 'extravert' in the usually accepted sense, and do not necessarily feel comfortable with others. I have traits of both introverts and extraverts and have been feeling much more introverted lately, so much so that I've given up the drama class I was going to. My alleged extraversion, consists largely of wanting to make some connection with others in order to feel less isolated and more understood, a need to forge a connection brought about by my having always felt alone, unconnected to a family and alienated. I naturally prefer to hang out with likeminded people and close intimate friends. I get scapegoated as you feel you do, and even my shrink has had to admit that I do. Your feelings on that are very much the same as mine.

However, I don't think the story can stop there. I am not content to remain an outcast in society and to repeat whatever behaviour of mine results in others projecting their shadows onto me. I am not happy, not do I think it healthy, living in isolation, (things get out of perspective, people become more self-centred and less flexible). I also wish to get married and possibly have children. I also have to have a job that I can tolerate or preferably be happy in. These things just aren't possible to someone who can't relate to people offline.

I hardly think it is normal to hold a contemptuous attitude to the rest of the world, and to be so insecure that you fear and hate them.

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