bonding

Posted by isaacthe54 on December 12, 2000 at 11:02:50:

In Reply to: Thanks for the response posted by Elizabeth on December 11, 2000 at 23:14:56:

: I feel like I have to celebrate every response I get since no one ever seems to pick up on my threads!!!! Not very nice for a girl who has EXISTENCE issues to begin with!!!

so sorry abi! i been busy fightin wit bartholomew/sambersil/anonymous. do'nt worry, you probably exist.

: >>>...it is impossible for you to be disconnected from any part of your own humanity.<<<

i kinda disagree here, tho it might just be that i'm missing the point. i think it IS possible to be disconnected from certain parts of oneself. this is not necessarily bad. i have often, in stressful situations, simply shut down my capacity to feel fear/stress/etc and saved the day. maybe what yer gettin at is that this "shutting down" is a part of my humanity or something? in other situations, i pull back from a potentially good thing because on some level it is percieved as a threat. this is where i make my biggest mistakes socially; letting people i love slip out of my life. it's a stereotypical 5 thing, too, and it's so easy and painful to do.

: Interesting. You really think it's a perception problem? I do to but that doesn't stop me from wondering when my experience doesn't match up with the evidence of other people's experiences. Just like I can feel very disconnected from my body at times (living in the head) but it's always still there! :)

most of our problems are perception problems. personally, i like living in my head most of the time; it's a happy place.

: >>>>It will be interesting (what isn't?)

hehehehehe.....

>>>I wish more posters would reveal their ages because I find there is a definite shift in the Judging functions around middle-age. I'm looking for exceptions to the rule.<<<<

: I'm 26. What is this shift in Judging functions? Sounds interesting.

i'm curious too. 21.

re: bonding. i am most tightly bonded to 3 people in my life, excluding parents. a 67, my younger sister and best friend since WAY before i could remember. a 76, my best friend since kindergarten. and a 91, my girlfriend and the love of my life. i have other good friends, too, but i think what you were getting at in this post is the sort of closeness that lasts. my girlfriend has been around a lot less time than the other two, and that sort of relationship has a way of changing when you least expect it sometimes, but we're happy and extremely close now. it could well be that we have simply fooled ourselves into feeling love for one another, but i fail to see the difference between that and "real" love. we definitely know one another, and there have been various trials and tribulations throughout the process of separating the perception from the reality.

people fall out of a persons life easily. all we can really do, i think, is hang on to the few we want to keep and make the most of the others while they're here. no point in being cynical about it, cause there is real value in love and friendship. and all of a person's close friends were once newcomers in their life.

isaac

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