Posted by Hannah on December 28, 2000 at 21:50:02:
I'm a F 5w4 INTx in a 3-month relatoinship with a M 1w9 ISTJ (his mannerisms are very 5 though) . We're both very prudent, introverted, and reserved, and tihs is the first relationship for both of us (we're college kids). As far as our differences he is more down-to-earth than me and he is much more organized and motivated. I'm closer to F than he is and I'm less routinized but still pretty predictable.
I take more of the initiative inthe relationship as far as physical expression--e.g., at first he was hesitant to even hold hands until I brought it up. It sounds like an unbalanced relationship from what I just described (the fact that I seem more concerned about us than he does), but it is, on the contrary, very equalized; we both make equal efforts to communicate and contribute to the health of the relationship, and of course, we're both devoted and respectful to each other. Good building blocks.
To get to the point--it's taking a serious turn and I was wondering if some other 5's could share about similar experiences with 1's (or other people who sound a lot like him). It would be intresting to see how those turned out, and if they were soured at one point, it would help me recognize areas that need work.
Thanks..Hannah